The Good and Faithful Servant: How do I guard my heart?

To the girl falling for that boy,

Guard your heart. I know you’ve heard this phrase countless times growing up. You hear it from your mom and you hear it in church. I know it’s a little repetitive, but I’m begging you, please listen to whoever is speaking this into your life. They know what they’re talking about. As young Christian women this is ingrained in us at a very young age. Everyone is always telling us to guard our hearts, but no one is really teaching us how to do it. Over the years I learned the importance of guarding your heart the hard way. When the Bible says, “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it” (Psalms 4:23), it’s the truth. The decisions you make with how you handle your heart are going to impact your life forever. I’m 20 years old and it wasn’t until recently that I realized I had no clue how to guard my heart. I don’t want you making that mistake. I’m not going to say I have it all figured out, because I don’t. I still find myself asking quite frequently “How do I guard my heart? What does that even mean?”. All I can do is share some things I learned growing up in hopes you don’t learn it the hard way like me.

I know you’re crushing on him big time. We’ve all been there, but take it slow, set up boundaries. Don’t chase him, let him pursue that beautiful heart of yours. I think that guarding your heart means giving it to the Lord. Your heart has to completely belong to the Lord before you can give it to any boy. Because guess what? This boy can’t fulfill the longing of your heart like Jesus can. This boy is human, he’s not perfect, he will let you down, and if you’re not careful and don’t guard your heart, it can cause you a lot of pain. So, to answer the question “How do I guard my heart?”: I’d have to say spend time with the Lord. Spend time in His Word. Learn about how much God loves you, because if you know the vast love God has for you, then you’ll never let a silly boy take advantage of you or your heart. Please chase after your relationship with God more than you chase after a relationship with any boy. Your relationship with God is the most important thing in your life. Guard your heart and stay pure. Just a reminder, purity is more than actions, purity is a state of heart.


A girl who learned the hard way


  • Amanda Parris

    Peyton, thank you for sharing your heart in this way. Parenting three girls, I need to be clear in my words and example about what it means to guard your heart. You have convicted my heart in that area, as well.

  • Claudette Owens

    Peyton such great words and advice! Yes, have a right relationship with the Lord! Make it a daily prayer to ask God to guide you! I did this! God has truly answered blessed Larry & my marriage!

  • Tony Burns

    Great message! I will share it with both of my teen girls!

  • Larry

    This is amazing, you hit the nail on the head.

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